One of the author’s clients, Camilla, for instance, didn’t feel any arousal when looking at her partner or when having sexual fantasies.ģ.1.5.1. Pay careful attention to yours and your partners if you want to improve your sex life.ģ.1.5. But everybody is unique with varying levels of brake and gas pedal sensitivities and what makes each of these go.ģ.1.4.1. Women that feel anxious about how long it takes them to become aroused or who only get the urge for sex in perfect circumstances have a harder time with sex.ģ.1.4. Most people that struggle with sex just have overactive sexual brakes.ģ.1.3.1. Even something as simple as a sound or smell can make your brain shut down your sexual desire.ģ.1.3.

Whenever you get stimulation, it pushes the gas pedal, and there are many things that can push your brakes.ģ.1.2.1.1. But Laurie wasn’t in the wrong for this, she just needed to understand that she, like you, has a sexual gas pedal and brakes.ģ.1.2.1. The problem was that she began to feel bad for not wanting penetrative sex.ģ.1.2. She did, however, enjoy pleasuring herself.ģ.1.1.2. The author had a patient named Laurie who, after having a baby, lost all desire for sex with her husband.ģ.1.1.1. You have needs as unique as your sexual personality, and that’s okay.ģ.1.1.

And you can want only what you don't already have.' - Emily Nagoski 3. Emily Nagoski’s explanation of the truth about female sexuality, including the hidden science of what turns women on, why it works, how to utilize this knowledge to improve your sex life, and why sexual myths make you feel inadequate in bed. Come As You Are Summary by Danny Forest 1.

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